Ambigous Sexuality Still Really Hot Right Now
If you don’t listen to pop radio, you might not know that Katy Perry’s song “I Kissed a Girl” has been on top of Billboard’s Hot 100 and Pop 100 charts since July 5th. I heard it on the radio four times today. This full-throttle pop song is the interior monologue of a young heterosexual woman thinking “I kissed a girl and I liked it.” She reflects: ” It felt so wrong/It felt so right/Don’t mean I’m in love tonight.” It’s playful, fun, and full of pop hooks:
But we’ve heard this kind of thing before. Who else has made her reputation on flirting with the possibility of bisexuality? Why MySpace “Queen” Tia Tequila of course! Months after her hilariously awesome reality TV show ended, Tequila admitted “I still don’t know if I’m straight or if I’m gay” while accepting an A-List Award. While the comment is tongue and cheek, it illustrates my point (that I’m about to make.) Bisexuality is becoming more and more popular, but it still usually shows up as simply a confusing or comical crossroads in a more binary view of sexuality where everyone has to be either gay or straight. It would be nice if that were true, but modern studies (and most bisexuals) suggest a more complicated view of sexuality where very few people are all gay or all straight. Kinsey called it a spectrum.
In the exceedingly popular revival of Britain’s Dr. Who, John Barrowman portrays Captain Jack Harkness, a bisexual time traveler from the 51st century. In an American comic about a gay superhero, Midnighter, the title character runs into time traveling police from so far in the future that everyone is bi as a matter of fact. I suspect that as time goes on more and more sexual practices derided as strange or evil will become common vernacular. Dan Savage, the sex advice columnist writer/podcaster I listen to regularly, insists that even BDSM is old hat. As for Katy Perry? She’s obviously being facetious with her pseudo-concerned lyrics about being a good girl. I think it’s the nonchalant ‘tude of this song that makes it so appealing. As the song goes: “Ain’t no big deal, it’s innocent.”